DESTINY is shaped by the dots that connect as associations.
These dots are scattered throughout our lives.
Some associations become lifetime partnerships, others last for a season, and some are short-term.
They come as friends, advisors, mentors or partners and all of them contribute to our journey.
Associations can influence us positively or negatively.
We are, in many ways, the sum total of the voices we hear and the wisdom we apply. Associations shape destinies.
Some build up
People either build us or drain us.
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As the wise writer said, “Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.” (Proverbs 13:20, NLT).
Friends can fuel your cognitive energy or flatten your thoughts.
They can ignite your passion for life or leave you flustered and confused.
Emotional intelligence
Great associates not only sharpen the quality of your thinking but also embody emotional intelligence (EQ).
To cultivate meaningful associations, you must connect with those who demonstrate emotional maturity.
Recently, I interviewed Dr Travis Bradberry, the EQ guru, who emphasised this truth.
Scripture also warns us: “Don’t make friends with hot-tempered people, or associate with those who are easily angered.” (Proverbs 22:24, NLT).
Influence
No parent desires their child to associate with corrupt influencers.
Associates can lure us into destructive paths, and we must resist their pull.
I recall finishing my Ordinary Level in 2000, when my late father, Billy Nyoni, told me: “I don’t want you to have friends.”
At the time, I was infuriated.
How could I live without friends?
Yet, as I grew older, I began to appreciate his wisdom.
The Bible cautions us: “My child, if sinners entice you, turn your back on them!” (Proverbs 1:10, NLT).
Positive honest counsel
True friends and associates offer progressive advice.
The counsel you receive determines whether you succeed or fail.
“The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.” (Proverbs 27:9, NLT).
Loyalty
Everyone longs for a loyal friend — someone who stands with you through trials.
True friends reach out when the chips are down.
Loyalty is one of the most expensive commodities in life, and it cannot be bought.
Parting point
Associates are not just companions; they are co-authors of our life story.
Proverbs reminds us that wise, loyal and peaceful friends shape us for success, while foolish or corrupt ones can derail our destiny.
