The recent Imiklomelo kaDakamela Awards in Nkayi District not only honoured outstanding community members, but also sparked thought-provoking discussions on modern marriage and divorce.
A key concern raised during bonfire discussions was that abandoning traditional cultural practices for modern lifestyles is contributing to rising divorce rates.
Judicial Service Commission figures show that the High Court received 3 989 divorce applications between January and December last year, a 27% increase from the previous year.
However, completed divorces fell by 15%, pointing to growing pressure on the courts.
At a gathering hosted by Chief Dakamela, about 50 participants analysed why modern marriages fail.
Many argued that couples no longer follow the cultural processes and family involvement that traditionally guided unions.
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One participant Nkosikhona Mahlabane said marriage preparation once involved extensive teachings and family consultations.
“The key question should be: How did our ancestors handle marriage?” he asked.
He criticised foreign traditions like proposing on one knee, noting that marriage traditionally involved extended families, not just two individuals.
Award-winning author Arnold Nkala said modern lifestyles have eroded traditional structures.
“Women used to be housewives, but now they also work and expect unemployed husbands to assist with chores, which often leads to misunderstandings,” Nkala said.
However, corporate trainer Jonah Nyoni challenged some views, arguing that divorce is largely caused by misaligned values.
“Belief systems are the foundation of culture,” Nyoni said. “Over time, a culture of divorce has gradually developed.”
He added that polygamy alone cannot solve the problem if foundations were shaky.
Imiklomelo kaDakamela Awards continue to be recognised as a prestigious platform that celebrates community excellence, promotes rural development, and preserves Ndebele cultural heritage.