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Marriage fitness

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Life is a journey that requires certain levels of fitness for one to go all the way.

Life is a journey that requires certain levels of fitness for one to go all the way.

Relationships: Kilton Moyo

Many people give up on life because they do not take time to prop up their fitness levels so as to endure the challenges encountered on this journey.

This is where the biggest challenge lies and many have let go. All other activities in life require fitness also. Did you know that marriage also requires fitness at various levels?

Many of us have given up on marriage because of our fitness levels. Many of us do not exercise our various muscles in marriage to keep fit and we just hope it will be by grace.

You will agree with me that in this generation and in these last days, there is need for couples to stay fit so as to sustain not only the purpose of marriage but also its nature.

Marriage is holy. It is holy matrimony and the duty of every couple is to sustain this nature and keep their union holy and honouring God, who created it and said it was holy.

Malachi 2:11 talks of how Judah has “profaned” the Lord’s holy institution, which he loves. Every couple has a duty to keep this institution holy. Every couple has a duty to keep their marriage pleasing to God. God is always involved in our marriage because marriage is all about Him.

The challenge is that many of us do not take time to develop ourselves in marriage so as to remain pure and serve the purpose of marriage.

Many of us are not very fit, if so to speak. We are not training ourselves correctly. We are not exercising all needed muscles to stay fit in marriage.

We take things for granted. It is human nature to take spiritual things for granted. Beloved, we need to be fit for marriage.

There are about five key levels of fitness that each couple must make sure they develop and grow.

I am not going to detail fully these levels for the obvious reason that I will give you at the end of this article. But there is need to work on the following fitness levels in marriage.

Spiritual fitness

Marriage is a spiritual institution. How fit are you spiritually to run this institution with a full understanding and co-operation of all its spiritual dynamics and expectations? Many couples fall short here and begin to bring in a lot of funny “spirits” and mess up the institution.

Emotional fitness

Many couples are found wanting in this area of fitness. That is why you find there is so much violence and wrong emotions exhibited in marriage.

Very few people take time to exercise their emotional fitness. They do not train their emotions so as to be relevant in marriage. How do you channel your anger or disappointments in marriage?

Mental fitness

What are your thoughts about marriage in general? What are your thoughts about your spouse? It is the things we think that we do and that form our attitudes and then our behaviour. There is a particular way of thinking in a holy institution.

Obviously this means we cannot think devilishly and expect to maintain the holiness of marriage. Somehow, our thinking must align. We can achieve this by working deliberately on this fitness area which is very critical in marriage.

Sexual fitness

You will agree with me that many couples lack serious fitness in this area. Marital sex is different from anything else. It serves a huge purpose, which couples must be aware of.

Many of us never take time to delearn fornicative thoughts and habits we learnt in the world before marriage and we think we can behave sexually in marriage the same way as before marriage.

This has caused a lot of challenges in marriage. Couples must take time to learn more and get themselves fit not only to do the physical life of sex, but also fulfill the spiritual life of sex within marriage. This fitness is a must.

Physical fitness

I attend a fitness house in the city I live. I rarely see couples attending together. I see many men by themselves and see some ladies also by themselves.

I have seen very few couples doing this together. It does not augur well that the man or the woman is physically fit, while the spouse is a weakling.

This robs the marriage of its physical power that it must enjoy in order to bring about satisfaction to both parties.

The physical fitness of many couples is suspect, particularly ladies. In this level, you both help each other to maintain the kind of weight and figure you will appreciate. There is much beauty in the two of you being fit.

I know you want to hear more about this marriage fitness thing. It has been well-prepared over the years for you and we are here to help you through it.

There are more other fitness levels that couples must be aware of.

Beloved, we want to introduce you all to our new and awesome book, Marriage Fitness, which we are releasing on Saturday.

It is a book specifically designed for you in your marriage context. It will help you deal with most issues like a well-trained couple. It is your own in-house gym.

You get one topic and run with it the whole week exercising a particular level of fitness. It will make you fit again in marriage.

Before this book, you ran away and struggled so much with fitness but now, with the book in your hands, you can stand and enjoy the challenges. This is our biggest Christmas gift to marriage in Africa.

Fruitful Marriages is an enrichment programme meant to help you make your marriage work. We help you with all the levels of fitness in marriage. Our exciting school of marriage is for everyone who desires to enjoy a blissful marriage.

Kilton Moyo is creator of Fruitful Marriages, a renewal and enrichment program and is pastor, counselor and author of The Sex Trap. Call or whatsap on +263 775 337 207, +263 772 610 103 or [email protected]