Parents want to protect and raise their children in a way that they feel will give them the right future.
Children in turn see their development retarded and the joys, freedom and adventures of life endangered. In their different views, both parents and children feel they are cultivating a good future, but what each group sees as good may be perceived differently by the other.
Children, who are a gift from God, may end up a thorn in the flesh. Some children think their parents are ancient and out of touch with reality owing to generation gap.
The Bible teaches us to live in harmony in Colossians 3:20-21, (King James Version) “Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”
We grew up with some mischievous and naughty guy who would steal from his parents.
The parents tried all correctional methods, but reformation did not come as they expected.
After high school, the father reported him to the police and he was arrested, convicted and sent to jail. He died days after release from prison.
Whatever happened in prison, I don’t know.
Parents derive joy from the good of their children, but other children have brought untold suffering to their parents.
When couples marry they expect to raise a family and when that bundle of joy pops up, there is celebration and relatives and friends join by bringing gifts.
As the years progress, all this pomp and fanfare may fade away and the family may become a war zone.
Let us raise children in the love of God and you children accept to be raised that way. For this to work, the marriage has to be founded on Christ. Let Jesus be the head.
The best heritage that you can ever give your children is to lead them to Christ. When they are born, please make sure you go with them to church and have them rightly dedicated to Christ and to no-one and nothing else.
You cannot look after them as they go to nursery, crèche, school or go out to play; only God can do that.
Parents should not give up the right to raise their children by surrendering them to the maid, school or Sunday school. You should be directly involved with their upbringing.
One of the best favours you can do to your children is to give them a chance to grow up in an environment where father and mother are together.
If you ever want to get married to have children, then do it with full knowledge and never divorce. Provide a conducive environment so that they become what God ordained for them.
There is a very sorry sight I saw of divorced parents that are in competition to score points with their children spoiling them to the point of destruction. They are now into clubbing and all sorts of vice. The children are now the fighting ground.
Let the family be inclusive, open and discuss clothing, health, career options and all issues that affect them.
Talk your differences over amicably. There are decisions that parents make that have so much bearing on the future of their children, for example buying your toddlers toy guns.
With so many toys on the market, what really do you wish to impart on your children playing with guns? Be careful with what you would be communicating in the spirit realm. I also appeal to those raising orphans and children from extended families to treat them like their own.
Children, listen to your parents. They have seen much under the sun. My brief today is not about clothing, but it seems beauty these days is measured by the degree of nakedness.
Girls and in some instances. women compete to expose their chest and back and boys are not left behind with their sagging trousers at times exposing dirty undergarments. Where is the world heading to?
Tattoos are all over our bodies, a violation of Leviticus 19:28, (New King James Version), “You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you: I am the Lord.” Please do not provide the devil landing ground and rights to your body.
The family is a unit, not a war zone; live together in love. Ephesians 6:1-4, (King James Version), advises us so, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise: That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”