This week we start from the bar and navigate our way to the church and our homes. Some people dread to go back home after work, school, church and bottle store. Others cannot wait, but rush back home after a tiring day. Home is best for some, yet worst for others.
Some would want the church service to go on and on not because they are enjoying, but that perhaps the temperature will have subsided by the time they get home. Others drink beyond measure hoping that people will have already slept by the time they get home. Some would want the school or college term to continue without closing, trying to avoid the nightmare of being home.
An invitation by a follower of this column for a chat with his friends got me to a local pub where some 20 or so men, boys and sisters were waiting to air their grievances.
My issue today, however, is not the beer, the smoking or the sisters who presumably could have been in relationship with the married men. The Bible declares that we are the temple of the Holy Spirit and Jesus said that He was going to die and rise to life after which He would come back with the Father and make an abode in you.
Therefore the Trinity, the Godhead; that is God the Father, Christ the Son and the Holy Spirit wants to live inside you. If that is so, would you drug the temple of the Lord? Fashion your lives after Jesus. Ask yourself if He would do what you are doing if He was living in the physical realm in our times. Would He drink moderately?
Let us get to the grievances. One guy said he was only going to set his feet in a church if his wife who has been going to church over the years shows some semblance of Christianity. He said that his wife kneels before the pastor, but serves the husband food while standing. He quipped that he will enter heaven ahead of his wife.
One of the men probably around 40-years-old said he feels more at home with his drinking mates than with his family because his wife quarrels too much and sometimes beats him up in front of the children.
One of the sisters said she would give the men better shelter “mazuva kumba pakunenge kusingagariki,” (cover when home is not habitable because of the nagging wife).
The arried men would then claim to the wives that they were with “mdhara”, the old man during those days. Another one said his wife says he is boring if he is sober so she makes sure he drinks everyday, surprising isn’t it? Some said their wives have surrendered the management of the home to the maid. The list is endless.
The wives and children have got grievances as well. I don’t want to get you into fighting. Identifying a problem should be the starting point to solving it not magnify it. I cannot do justice to the issue without the response of the wives and the contribution of the children.
Next week I will wrap up this topic by touching on all the stakeholders; husband, wife and children. Let me throw in this before I close, Ephesians 5:22 – 25, King James Version, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” Do yourself favour by reading the whole passage in Ephesians 5:22 – 6:4.
The best way to enjoy rights is by meeting your obligations. Let me have your feedback after going through the given Scriptures. Allow God, who is able to change the hardest of heads, minister to you. Colossians 3:18-21, King James Version reads, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”